Ep 228: Rewiring Your Mindset for Wealth and Worthiness – with Kam Knight

So what we need to do is work on reducing the parts of us that say, no, we can't have it, that we don't deserve it, that we're not allowed to have it.

This is just one aspect of it.

And there are hard ways to work on it, and there are simple ways to work on it.

The simple way is to repeat statements.

One of the go to statements that I use myself as well as for my clients is I deserve have permission and I'm having good things.

So I'm programming my mind that I do deserve things.

I'm programming my mind that I do have permission, and I'm programming my mind that I can have things right.

So that's a preview of this week's episode.

We went a little bit longer than usual.

I normally try to keep episodes between 25 and 30 minutes, but this one was so good that we just kept the conversation going.

I hope that you benefited from the episode as much as I did.

I'm putting a lot of the information to use in my personal life and business life, so I hope that you enjoy this episode.

And here we go.

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Hey, everybody.

You get a treat today.

You don't have to listen to just my voice.

We've had a couple solo episodes lately where we've talked about the big beautiful tax bill.

We've talked about some estate planning issues.

But today we're getting back to one of my favorite topics.

We're going to talk about mindsets and accountabilities and why we do what we do.

And it's going to be really fascinating.

And I know I'm going to learn a lot.

A of lot a lot as well.

So we have Cam Knight with us today, and Cam is a coach, he's a writer, and he's the author of several bestselling books in the area of mental, emotional and physical performance.

So.

Hey, Cam, how are you?

I am doing fantastic, David.

Thank you for having me on.

I have always been fascinated with, like, success and achievement, and even, like, you see the top athletes in the world, like, they can't really jump higher than the other guys or run faster, but they do something different.

Like Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant.

They did different things than some of the other guys that Were also freak of nature athletes.

So hopefully we can learn some things.

Some things for you.

But yeah, tell me a little bit about your background and what you do and about some of the books you've written.

All right, sure.

So, again, my name is Kev Knight.

I am a coach, international speaker, and author and author of a dozen books in the area of mental performance, such as speed, reading, memory, concentration, you can actually see them in the background.

As well as personal mastery.

And for as far back as I can remember, I've been a fairly driven individual.

It's hard not to be living in a culture and society with so much personal development, content, and more or less everyone telling you to do more, be your best self and reach for the stars as a result.

I've always wanted to do more, have more, and be more.

And like Michael Jordan and the kobes.

And although I've had my fair share of success, I always felt like I either missed a mark or I fell short, or the success was much more difficult and stressful than it needed to be.

And I always wondered why that was.

Like, why is it if I want to do something, I know what to do, I know how to do it, and I have the motivation and desire to do it, but for one reason or another, I can't or don't do it.

And at the time, there were no clear answers.

The best answers that I came across were, you need beliefs or you need motivation and discipline.

And although all that is correct, I always felt like there was more to it.

And over the last 15 years, that question lingered in my mind.

Every time I was stuck, I thought, I wondered why.

Why do I keep spinning my wheels?

Why don't I just do this thing and get the result that I want?

And the more coaching I did and the books I read and seminars attended, the more I learned about the complexities of the human brain.

And over time, I began to realize that, hey, wait a minute.

There's a part of our brain designed to hold us back.

There's a part of our mind built to keep us from growing and making progress.

And I call this part resistance.

And in many ways, it's a brick wall that we hit anytime that we want to do something, no matter how much we want to do it, and we can't.

And this really is what separates the guys like the Michael Jordans from the rest of us or the people who aren't.

It's not that they have some better or more special abilities.

It's just that they don't have this thing I call resistance.

That they always have to push up against.

And the more resistance we have, the more effort we have to put in to overcome it.

And so the less results that we get.

Whereas the guys who are firing on all cylinders when they don't have to go up against any hurdles or walls, the.

They can do a lot more things and be a lot more effective.

That, that's fascinating.

Give me an example of resistance.

Maybe just that that your average Joe.

We're not talking about Michael Jordan.

We're talking about someone that's your friend, your family, maybe one of my clients.

What is resistance?

You know, I think about it as most of us could probably lose a couple pounds.

And ultimately that's it's just a formula of eating less.

Right?

It's not, it's.

But we know we're supposed to eat less, but we still snack, we still do what we do.

And to me that's fascinating.

Like why it's so simple.

Just eat less and you'll lose weight.

But we don't.

So talk a little bit about that and just some examples of resistance.

Okay, great.

So to understand resistance, it really helps to understand that the part of the brain that creates wants and desires, it works separately and independent of the part that allows you to act on that desire.

So this is really important, so I'm going to repeat it.

But the part of the brain that creates wants work separately from the part that allows you to act on the want.

So you have one part of the brain that's creating wants and desires, and it's creating essentially endless wants.

It doesn't check to see if you have the time, resources or the energy to achieve the want.

Now you have another part that actually gives a green light to act on that want or desire.

And it's the part that checks to see.

So when we're talking about wants and.

Desires, are we talking like goals or are we talking about even like nature?

Like alive, fight or flight, typed actions?

Yeah, more or less all of it.

So we're talking about it at a basic fundamental level, like survival, more basic needs like food and water, and then to more higher level needs like connection, love, goals, aspiration, all of that.

Anything that is a wanting or a, a need or a desire that we have.

Perfect.

Yeah.

And then, then we have the resistance.

So it helps to think that anytime a want or desire shows up, it gets evaluated by this part of the brain using a whole host of criteria.

And if that desire is not in line with any of the criteria, the brain will prevent action.

So imagine sitting in front of A boardroom with the board of directors or a panel of judges.

So every decision must go through them.

If even one of the members is against the idea, it won't pass.

And I know you asked me, so what is resistance?

So I can give a couple of examples.

So a couple of the more commonly known reasons or causes of resistance relate to having the right beliefs, the proper habits, or if it goes against your comfort zone.

So if there's something we want to do, our brain will say, hey, is this in line with our beliefs?

Are our habits in line with this activity?

Or is this going to push us out of our comfort zone?

Now, these are our commonly known ones, but it goes even deeper than that.

One of them includes something like self image.

Humans, many of us have created a self image of ourselves as either cool, tech savvy, smart, or that we're this great artist, musician, or have this great story.

Though we won't apply ourselves, we won't study or put ourselves out there, because if things don't go well, we have to face the fact we're not this great self image we created for ourselves.

So some.

So oftentimes it's much easier to hold on to the self image than to face the possibility of proving it wrong.

And so a lot of times, if we have created this big image that we can do something better or we can do it faster, but if we, deep down, we don't think we actually can, our brain will prevent us from doing it.

Because if it doesn't go well, we have to face the fact that we're not this great self image we created.

So that's like another reason the brain will stop us.

And there's tons of criteria, go through a whole checklist, and literally everything has to check off before the brain allows us to act.

Very fascinating.

So I've always been an athlete, and I was a tennis player.

And I remember reading Books by Dr. Jim Lair about mental toughness, and he was a leader in the industry.

And he described choking.

And choking is for lack of term, when you don't play your best and maybe you lose to someone who's not better than you.

I never mind losing if the other guy's better than me.

And there are lots of people better than me.

But oftentimes in sports, you lose to somebody who's not as good as you because.

Yeah.

And he said, and this always fascinated me, that choking is an excuse.

So if I lose to Cam or if it's close and I'm not sure I can beat Cam subconsciously, I'm not going to play my best.

And then as I'm walking off the court, I just played bad.

The sun was out, it was windy, and I could have beat him, but I didn't just because I had a bad day.

And then we'll never know if I'm a better tennis player than you or not.

Whereas if I just played my best and if you still beat me, then I clap my hands and say, you did better.

But then we know for sure.

That definition of choking was interesting to me.

So there.

That choking is a very interesting concept because I talk about one part of the brain creates wants, and interestingly enough, our own wants can be a hindrance to achieving our want.

And then I talk about resistance.

So we want something and then resistance comes up to stop us.

Now, what's really interesting is when resistance stops us, it doesn't tell us that it's going to stop us.

It's not going to say, hey, David, this thing that you're trying to do when in tennis goes against our beliefs that we're a good tennis player, or it goes against our self image that we're trying to uphold, so I'm going to sabotage you.

It doesn't say that.

It shows up in manipulative ways.

And there's a lot of tricks resistance uses.

So you described a concept of, hey, I want to lose weight, but I can't stop myself from eating.

The brain will say things like, one more bite won't hurt, and then you take that bite.

That was just a trick because the brain is saying, hey, I'm gonna sabotage you from this goal.

And I'll say things like, one, one bite won't hurt and other stuff.

And so choking is just a trick of resistance to keep us in our old ways or keep us from moving forward.

I don't know if you can answer this that easily, but let's say the person maybe that I work with that says, I just.

I'm not good at controlling my spending and I make a lot of money, but I spend a lot of money and I'm in debt.

I know I need to stop, but I don't.

Or the person that's 20 pounds overweight and they know eating a half bag of Oreos is not going to help the cause, but they still do it.

Is there a simple solution to, like, just not eat the Oreos or just not put that extra charge on your credit card, or is there not a simple solution to something that it's not rocket science.

None of these things require a PhD but they're so fricking hard to do or not do.

So a lot of our surface level actions seem like a simple thing.

Like, hey, I should, if I want to save money, I need to stop spending money.

And it's simple, don't spend any money.

Or if I want to lose weight, hey, stop eating those Oreo cookies.

But the human brain is extremely complex.

In fact, most people would say it's the most complex.

It's a pinnacle of complexity in the known universe, more complex as stars, planets and everything.

So that means that the decisions that we take and the thoughts that lead to those decisions, there's a lot of complex stuff going on underneath.

And if we don't understand or work through that stuff, then that simple, seemingly simple decision becomes much harder.

And now you talked about the haste that spending money.

This relates to our wants.

And I mentioned that our wants can be a challenge to getting them because there are so many aspects of our wants.

Like we have a thing called the overactive want.

This is where a person creates all sorts of wants and desires all of the time.

They see something and they want it.

They hear about something and they want it.

In fact, they don't have to see or hear anything.

Their brain pulls them in all sorts of directions.

Before they can start on one thing, their mind is pulling them towards something else to chase.

And if somebody has an overactive wanting mechanism, it means they're going to be constantly stimulated by different things.

And if it's going to, those things are things that require purchasing.

They're constantly going to be spending money.

And so it's really important for them to get a handle on their overactive wanting mechanism.

Otherwise, anytime they see something, hear about something, or desire comes up and it triggers that impulse into buying.

And which is why it's so difficult for them to control their spending.

And that's just one aspect of want.

We have strong wants where a person, where a person wants something really badly.

And what's really interesting is that our wants and resistance work this together.

So when our wants grow, so does our resistance.

And our resistance growing makes our want grow even more.

And that makes our resistance grow even further and very quickly becomes this feedback loop where we now we want this thing really bad and we can't have it really bad.

And a great example would be, let's say somebody wanted to make more money.

And if they get caught, if they really wanted to make money, that strong desire would trigger equally strong resistance that's going to hold them back.

And so now why, why is that?

That's fascinating.

Because you would think if I really want to make money, I would have less resistance because I would drive through that and do the things that it takes to make money.

But you're saying it's the opposite, which is fascinating to me.

It is the opposite, which is why I think a lot of personal development is burning people out.

Because a lot of personal development is focusing on motivation and inspiration, more or less growing people's wants.

But in a way, the best way to describe it is using Einstein's theory of relativity.

So one of Einstein's theories, the theory of special relativity, says that time and space are not the same.

The three dimensions of space, north, south, east, west, and up and down, as well as time, they're actually one and the same.

It's the same fabric.

In fact, scientists and physicists don't refer to time and space separately.

They call it space, time.

And in many ways, our want and resistance, it's one and the same.

It's the same fabric.

So when I want grows, so does our resistance.

And I know many of our.

Your listeners, as well as you, probably as well, have experienced moments where you wanted something really badly and things weren't moving for you.

And as soon as you let it go, things began to fall in place, is because the want went down, the resistance.

And then it became easier to either do the thing or move through it.

Now, I know you're wondering, like, but why?

Like, when it comes to the mind and the complexities, sometimes I have to tell people, like, I don't make the rules.

I just help people work within the rules.

And this is one thing that people get really hung up on.

And this actually shows up a lot in relationships where a person wants someone really badly, the other person, their guard goes up, and it's hard for them to give it to them.

Even if the other person likes the first person, they can't, because their guard has just gotten up and they don't even know why.

And this plays out in so many areas, including finances and money and savings.

So I want to build my business, and I work hard to build my business.

And to build a business, there are certain things you got to do every day.

Meet more people, get the word out there.

Certain things you need to not do every day.

I'm being selfish and looking for advice here, like, how do you make yourself or make the things that need to have happen actually happen?

Because there are barriers, and then there's this resistance that we all run into.

It's fascinating, and it may be an oversimplified question, but if there's something that you know you need to do.

How do you do it?

So this I'm going to go even deeper and say, yeah, it is oversimplified because I think we all know the answers.

It's just that why is it hard for us to implement those answers?

But if we can go deeper, this dynamic of wanting something and that quitting resistance can actually happen internally.

And before I describe it and how it works internally, I want to describe it externally.

It's like when we want something and a parent says, you can't have it, it makes us want it more.

Which is one of the challenges parents have with rearing kids is because telling them they can't have things that are bad for them actually makes it want more and create conflicts.

Now this process can happen internally where a want or desire can come up.

But if we have feelings of undeserving, like we don't deserve it, we have beliefs, negative beliefs or limiting beliefs that this is going to be too difficult, those inner stuff or the resistance that's going to say no, we're not allowed to have it, we can't have it, we're not good enough to have it.

All of that and then that, that in of itself makes a want grow even more.

So the resistance tries even harder to say no.

And then our want grows even more and the resistance tries even harder.

So what we need to do is work on reducing the parts of us that say no, we can't have it, that we don't deserve it, that we're not allowed to have it.

This is just one aspect of it.

And there are hard ways to work on it, and there are simple ways to work on it.

The simple way is to repeat statements.

One of the go to statements that I use myself as well as for my clients is I deserve have permission and I'm having good things.

So I'm programming my mind that I do deserve things.

I'm programming my mind that I do have permission and I'm programming my mind that I can have things right.

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So can I be devil's advocate?

Yes.

You deserve to be on this podcast because you're very good at what you do and you're giving great information.

Yeah, there was probably a time that you didn't deserve because you were not qualified and competent and you hadn't put the work in yet.

So is I deserve not always true and we just have to fake it till we make it, or do we have to actually do the work to deserve it?

So that's a very good question.

So there was a point where I didn't deserve to be on a podcast because I didn't have the knowledge that I do.

But there was where my knowledge was solid, like I knew what I was talking about.

I had seen results in my clients and whatever, but I still had that undeserving okay.

So it made it hard for me to get on podcast one and when I would be nervous and I really couldn't articulate or communicate what I wanted.

So, yes, there are times where we can deserve something, but if we feel like we don't deserve it, it get in the way.

Now when we start saying I am deserving, it starts changing things internally for us to develop the skill and the knowledge that we need to feel deserving.

Does that make sense?

So right now, yeah, right now you're probably at a certain level in your business.

Then you want to get to another level.

And again, there's many reasons for resistance.

We can go down a whole list.

But right now, we're honing in more on undeserving.

So if you're feeling like there's a struggle, it's probably because there's a part of you that feels like growing a business is a struggle, or another part that is feeling like I need to talk to bigger people, make bigger connections and contacts, but I don't deserve to be able to talk to them.

So that's holding you back.

But if you start saying I'm deserving, you'll naturally start receiving information and doing things that allow you to become reserving so you can act on those deservings.

Does that make sense?

Yeah, I love it.

I love it for sure.

So that's just a simple answer.

Another something that's a little bit more challenging is a lot of our want, first of all, has an emotional charge.

And the more we want something, the stronger that charge.

But our resistance has an emotional charge too.

So the feeling of Undeserving isn't a statement in your head I don't deserve.

It's actually a feeling of undeserving.

And all of our desires filter through that so we can work on the feeling and reduce the intensity of the charge.

And when we do that, there's less undeserving.

And so when we do have a want, it filters not as strongly through that, which makes it a lot easier to move forward with things.

Like I will say, David, I'm sure, you know, for somebody who's got a podcast, you probably do have a strong work ethic, because you did mention start, like working on a business and doing things requires all these things.

And there's people who are probably doing less than you that are doing better financially.

And it's probably.

And it's more likely because they don't have this feeling of undeserving, holding them back, making it feel like we have.

I have to work harder to earn that success.

No, no question.

No question.

Yeah.

Another thing that I come across as a financial advisor is you'll have two ends of the spectrum with clients, right?

You'll have people, oh, I don't need much because they're starving children in Africa and I don't deserve a nice car.

And if I have a house that's too nice, that's almost selfish because I should sell my house and give it to the poor.

I've never been there, by the way.

David.

And then you'll have other.

The other end of.

If the starving kids in Africa would work harder, they'd have money.

So I'm going to have my $5 million house and my jet, and that's okay.

Like, what is it okay for us to want as far as material things and levels of wealth?

Do you have any feelings of where ambition and greed maybe intersect?

Yeah, that's.

That's something I actually struggle with on a regular basis.

I did a lot more until I started affirming things like, I deserve have permission and I'm having good things, because prior to that, I was on that side of, like, of being more minimalist, trying not to have so much because there are so many other people in the world.

And.

And having things.

I felt like I was selfish and it would.

But I still had my wanting mechanism that wanted all these things.

Right.

So I still wanted those things.

It's just that I wasn't allowing myself to have it.

And I think it really comes down to the individual.

It's how much do you feel that you deserve to have the things that you want?

Regardless of what's going on in the world, I think there's a middle ground.

I think it's possible to have more and then give and be generous and whatever and then have and the two receive more.

So I will say though, I've been in all gambits, the one where you just want everything and you take whatever, it's actually not very fulfilling.

Like, oh, absolutely.

Most successful people are dying inside.

They're not hand because they're not happy.

They think more success, more wealth and more material is the answer.

So they go after it, disregarding the other side and then they just become more miserable.

So it's.

But now there are some people who aren't like that where they can have more and they're fine with it.

So it's really going back to.

It goes down to what's going on for you internally and how you're, how you respond to things.

So if you can have more without feeling guilty, then go for it.

But if you feel like having more makes you feel guilty, then you're going to need to do things, not feel as guilty, do charity, go out and volunteer and things like that.

And if you're a person who actually just naturally wants to do that, do more of it and you'll feel more deserving of the good things.

I know it's a long winded question, but hopefully that helps.

One thing for me is growing up, there was not much money in my family.

So there was maybe some.

Yeah.

And I think our attitudes about money are really shaped by our childhood.

But I got to a certain point where it's, you know what?

Some of the good that I can do for the world is to become successful because that shows people that, you know, you can work your way out, you can do hard things and have some level of success.

So that is to me more important than actual dollars.

We all want to have certain financial goals.

I'd like to have X amount of dollars in an account.

But ultimately, really the reason you want the dollars in the account is for what they can do for you.

And part of what they can do is tell other people that maybe didn come from financial wealth that you can do it, you can do hard things, you can develop skills and you can be successful.

So I think there's a layer of reasons always on why we do things.

And if we figure out the right formula, we can make it happen the right way.

Yeah, I think so.

I do tend to because of the work I do.

And as deep as I've gone into the unconscious, one thing I'VE realized is that almost most everything that we're doing is first personal reasons.

I don't want to say selfish.

It's for ourselves.

Even when we are being kind and generous, there's a lot of self interest.

Oh, it feels good.

I like to me, it feels good to be nice to people.

Yeah, it feels good.

So it makes us feel good.

So other people think it changes how people perceive of us.

They perceive of us more positively.

And so that's a personal benefit as well.

And there are other benefits that come from that.

And so I never try to hide the fact that whatever I'm doing for personal reasons.

Even though our brain is really good at convincing us that, oh, we're so kind and we're so generous and we're so conscious of others and we think.

I'm sure there's elements of it, but I don't let those elements make me lose sight of the real reasons.

And now I have developed a technique that helps people go inward and overcome severe trauma, PTSD and bad breakup.

And when I tell people about that, they're like, oh, wow, you're doing such great work helping people.

And I won't verbally say, but in my mind, I do have to disconnect that praise with, hey, yes, I am doing that.

But there is also some self interest there.

And I think it's really important that people don't lose sight of that self interest.

Right.

It's okay for me to be kind to you because I feel good when I'm kind.

That's a good thing.

Yeah, it's okay 100% to do it.

Just don't lose yourself in thinking that you're this great person and that there's no self interest, because we have a lot of that going on.

And I think a lot of the challenge we're experiencing right now, the society, is because the mind has an amazing way of making ourselves seem better than we really are.

In fact, Alex Carmozi has a quote that I love, which I actually regularly read, is that some of the worst people think they're good.

Wow.

Yeah.

And that feeling of that we're good can make us do a lot of bad things without realizing what we're actually doing.

So.

Wow.

Yeah.

Yeah.

You know what?

I always have thought, and this may be over overly simplified, but I think all human beings, we do what we perceive to be in our best interest at the time.

So even like a crack addict, like, I'm sure doing crack feels good.

That's why you do at the time, because it's your perceived best interest.

And maybe there's some trick in changing what's perceived to be in our best interest.

I don't know.

I think it is, and I think it's realizing that we're doing most everything and the decisions we're making is for our best interest.

And if we can acknowledge it, we can be more aware of the choices we're making and seeing.

Hey, because a lot of times when we're doing something, we actually think we're doing it for the greater good or for someone else.

But if we can always come down to, hey, I'm doing this because of my self interest and it may be hurting others, and we can come to that realization over time, we could start doing things that are not going to be so destructive to others and could be not just positive for ourselves, but also others.

And I know you had asked that question earlier about, like, how do we reconcile, like, just wanting everything for ourselves or just giving everything?

And I think it really just starts with knowing that everything we're doing, there's self interest involved and for each individual knowing what to the extent that they're willing to accept things just from themselves.

All right, let me get practical here.

And maybe I'm the only one that's listening to the podcast or anybody you know that has had like, maybe a to do list item that you just don't want to do.

Like just some client you need to call back and you just maybe don't like the client or you don't have the best news to give them and you literally just fricking dread it all day and you don't call them and then you call them at 4:58pm and you're like, please let me get voicemail.

And then you talk to them and they're like, okay, cool.

And they.

The call didn't go bad at all, but it literally ruined your whole day.

Is that me being lazy?

Is that me being undisciplined?

Is that what is that?

Because I think we all put things off that we don't want to do.

And if I would have just done it at 9 o', clock, the whole day would have been better.

I know, and I want to say, Dave, I've never done that in my life.

I have no idea what you're talking about.

I'm just kidding.

Even with somebody who understand resistance, that does come up for me.

So that answer requires like, couple levels of explanation.

So first, when people talk about procrastination and sabotage, the word laziness comes up a lot.

And our laziness isn't the reason why we do stuff.

We don't do stuff.

Our laziness is a response to something going on internally that's holding us back from doing the things that we need to.

So that's a very important thing that I want people to understand.

Like laziness isn't because you don't have motivation or you don't have.

What it takes is because something inside of you is holding you back from doing that thing.

And now so that something is resistance.

So when we have resistance, it prevents action and it, it shows up as laziness.

The second thing is I talked about the concept of tricks of resistance.

When our brain doesn't want us to do something, it's not going to tell us that it's not having us do something.

It's going to use tricks.

And there's all sorts of tricks.

And one of the tricks is by making something seem more overwhelming and difficult than it really is.

And why does that, why is that a trick or why does it work for so well?

Because when something feels much bigger than it is, we don't want to do it and we avoid it.

And resistance ends up winning.

Is so we have.

So then.

So when we are feeling like, hey, I know I need to be doing this and I know I'm procrastinating, it means that we're in.

So to acknowledge that, okay, we're in resistance and why is that resistance there?

And to realize that, hey, it's just making things much bigger than it really needs to.

So this is logically working through it though, to really work through it in a way where it doesn't even come up anymore.

You got to do the inner work.

You got to work on those things that we've talked about, like the undeserving, but it goes deeper, like things like shame and all of that stuff.

But I do have self talk statements that I use to work around it.

And there are three self talk statements that are essentially our default that I give to clients and people that not only help people take more action, but feel more deserving to take action.

And it does help people generate more money.

Would you like to hear those?

I was about to say I'll pay you for these.

Yeah, yeah.

And I tell you, the people who repeat these statements and do it on a regular basis, they're three simple statements and they have a huge shift in their life.

In fact, I want to actually read a comment from one, one of my clients who I gave the statements to and I asked her how the self talk was going and this was her response.

So I'm reading a text message I was doing and sorry for the disconnect.

I was doing an out of town job and was gone all last week.

If it weren't for the affirmations, I don't think I would have had the courage to take in such a monumental undertaking.

But I did and I killed it.

So that's what these statements can do.

So the first statement is I'm a do it now person.

I easily do things now, I easily accomplish my goals right away.

And I'm going to quickly just go over the psychology behind it.

The first phrase, I'm a do it now person, is creating an identity of a person who does things now.

So identity is another piece of resistance.

If we try to do something and our brain says this is not in line with our identity, it will prevent us from doing it.

So if we can create an identity that we're doing now person, we start taking more action.

The second phrase is I easily do things now.

So it is possible to do things.

But a lot of times action can be difficult and a strain.

With this statement, a lot of their actions will be a lot more effortless.

And then the third statement, I easily accomplish my goals right away is that it's possible to do a lot of things but be spinning ourselves in circles.

And the last phrase helps us stay focused on our goals.

So if a person repeats I'm a do it now person, I easily do things now, I easily accomplish my goals away goals right away, they'll find themselves taking more action now.

The second statement is I deserve have permission and I'm having good things again.

It hits on one of the core issues which is deserving.

Another core issue is permission.

Because since we were a kid, we have been conditioned to receive permission to do things like we can't do things now, we could do things later, we can't buy this now, whatever.

So as we develop more permission, it's more easier to get ourselves to have the things we want.

And the last part of having good things, it's the action of having it.

The last statement is a killer statement.

It's avalanches of money are flowing to me.

Money is flowing to me in avalanches of abundance.

You repeat those three statements on a regular basis.

Do it every morning while driving, cooking, cleaning, whatever.

I promise you it will have huge shifts.

So I think a lot of people legitimately actively say the opposite of that.

Oh, nothing good ever happens to me.

This is so hard for me.

Every once in a while I'll do a no carb challenge for a month.

I tell the people, I'm not eating any bread, any potatoes for a month.

And people say, I could never not eat bread for a month.

And I'm like, yeah, you could, but not want to.

But after two days, you forget.

So I think people literally say those exact statements in reverse, and that's why they are poor or they don't have the results, is because what we tell ourselves is true.

If I tell myself I can't, that's true.

Yeah.

And what I'm saying isn't anything new.

It's been talked about.

In fact, before I use the word self talk, a lot of people use it as affirmations.

And one of the first books that talked about this concept was written over 100 years ago, think and Grow Rich.

But Hill calls it as auto suggestions.

Although our def.

Although the word that describes it has changed the fundamentals isn't.

It's the words that you repeat create the action.

And so if you say, I can never do that over time, that seeps into it, in fact.

Yep.

Sometimes very quickly.

And I would challenge the people listening here, when you have those words or statements come up or wanting to come up, where you hear somebody saying they're going to do something, or you see someone doing something pretty cool, and you have that impulse of, I could never do that.

Just say, you know, I could do that if I wanted, and just see what the reaction is.

Oftentimes you'd be surprised how easy it is to actually act on it and move towards it.

Now, what's interesting is that our unconscious doesn't change overnight.

Otherwise it would be easy to become Abe Lincoln one day and Elon Musk another.

It takes a little bit of time to change what's going on internally.

So a lot of times when we do an affirmation, we get these quick results and we think, okay, we've changed, but it's important to continue doing the affirmation and keep doing it so the messages are changing deeper and deeper at a deeper level.

So when we do come across more activities and harder ones, we can easily move through them because that resistance doesn't show up.

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Beautiful.

We're talking a lot longer than we normally do and I hope that our audience is still with us because this fascinates me and I'm learning a lot.

And I really appreciate your experiment expertise and your input.

How do you work with clients individually or in groups?

I know you've written a bunch of books, but how do you work with people and help them?

And also, if anybody wanted to connect with you or learn anything more about you, how would they do that?

There's several ways people can work with me at different price points.

So I have over a dozen books in the area of mental, emotional and physical performance and they can just go to camknight.com to talk.

Check out those books.

A lot of great information.

I do have an online course called Conquer Internal Resistance which goes really deep into this topic.

Not only talks about the other challenges our wants create, but the other reasons for resistance and a dozens of tricks our mind uses.

And they can also get that@camknight.com but I do have a free gift for your listeners.

If they text the word flow to 26786, they'll get an awesome guide from me on five ways to end Procrastination and Sabotage.

And it's not just like a surface level guide.

It goes into.

It goes deep into the tricks our brain plays on us to keep us from moving forward.

And what's crazy about the tricks the brain uses is that you wouldn't think of them as tricks, which is why they work so well and why we so easily fall for them.

For example, that trick of overwhelm, you wouldn't think that's like the brain's way of stopping us from moving forward.

It just seems like we chose to be overwhelmed, but it's not.

And there's all these other stuff.

And they can get that.

They can get that from that guide by texting the word flow to 26786.

I love it.

If we can learn how to how to have our mind work for us as opposed to against us, I think that's the one of the keys to life.

We all know that person that's always overwhelmed.

If you're always anything, you're either causing it or not preventing it.

And if a course and a book can help you to really learn why you're causing it or why you're not preventing it, then life can be incredible moving forward.

So this is fascinating stuff.

I'm taking notes as fast as I can.

I'm going to put a lot of this to.

To work in my life and with, with my team.

But we are the weekly wealth podcast.

So we talk about the mindsets, tactics, and the strategies that can help you to build and maintain wealth.

So, Cam Knight, I would be very interested.

What is your definition of wealth?

What does wealth mean to you and to the people in your life that you love and care about?

So my definition of wealth is evolved as I have evolved in my journey growing up.

Unfortunately, I was raised on television, so my definition that I picked up was lots of money, nice cars, a lot of material stuff, and things like, because that's what was shown and that's what I noticed people responding to.

And as I gained those things, I realized it didn't create or trigger the feeling that I thought it would.

It actually left me a lot more empty.

And so I really went full circle to the other side and became minimalist.

I found the less things I own, the less things I have, the better I felt, the more clear my mind was and things of that nature.

So that was great.

But then at a certain point, I wanted to make more of an impact, do more things that could be more helpful to a lot more people.

And it wasn't easy because I didn't have the habits for it.

In fact, it was a struggle.

So that wasn't wealth or happiness.

But once I got into that, I was able to enjoy that wealth I had.

And then I realized that it's not so much what you have or what you're doing, but how much you enjoy life and how much you are liking life.

And now I do activities like mountain climbing and social dancing, such as South San Bachata.

I do yoga.

I do my work that I do now.

And I'm at a point where, like, I actually enjoy my life.

Like, I wake up not in the struggle, but it's wow.

And I get to help people, and I'm doing things that release a lot of positive feelings in my body.

And so I think wealth come really comes down to how much you actually enjoy your life.

Love it.

I love it.

And you need some money to enjoy life, but it's not only about how much money you have in the bank and investment accounts.

So I love it.

All right, Cam, so this is awesome.

Really appreciate your advice.

And I think we're going to change some lives here, and I think we're really going to help people and would love to find other ways for you and I to stay in touch and to help each other out and to help out the audience.

Yeah.

So until next episode, we wish everybody a blessed week.

Thanks, Cam.

Thank you very much.

David was fantastic.

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And before we go, here is this week's bonus content.

Some books that I think are really important that can help you to develop a successful success mindset.

And these are of course, in addition to Cam's books.

Check out As a Man Thinketh by James Allen.

My men's group actually went through this one.

It was really great and I enjoyed it.

Check out Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, the Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale, Atomic Habits by James Clear.

Love that one.

Of course, the seven Habits of Highly Successful People by Stephen Covey.

And why not jump into how to Win Friends and Influence People.

Any books I missed?

Anything that you would add to the list?

Let me know.

Go to the weekly Wealth Podcast Facebook group and let me know what your favorite success books are.